Of avocados and love relationships

"Avocado pit" by Maria Keays

I let go of something today. During the first week of June, I challenged my green thumb by trying to grow an avocado tree from a seed. Not much of a challenge you may argue and you would be right, if only I hadn’t attended gardening lessons at Attila’s course (There, where I have passed, the grass will never grow again, Attila the Hun). I’m known for my very poor skills in cultivating plants of any kind. But, since I proved to make my cyclamen survive since last winter till summer, driven by the enthusiasm of this almost-impossible mission accomplished,…

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The place where miracles happen

“Let’s play a game, let’s make it a bit unusual!” My last mindfulness lesson started like this. You can easily imagine the looks on our faces, we – those poor souls attending a mindfulness class in the evening after a tough day of a tough week, hoping to taste some peace of mind while quietly meditating, breathing in and breathing out. Some of us smiled, I definitely did. Some of us tightened a bit, I did that too. Some others raised their eyebrows with surprise sparkled with some preoccupation, I bet a did that as well. “It’s  going to be…

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My happiness jar

Here’s what 365 (366 actually, 2016 was a leap year) days of happiness jar look like. At the beginning of last year, I had just read about Elizabeth Gilbert’s happiness jar, so I decided to make it my 2016 new year resolution. I proved myself pretty good at sticking to resolutions, at this one at least, so while some days I wrote nothing and some other days I took several notes, in the end, few hundreds of happy moments were recorded. Some days ago, on the first days of 2017, proud of my achievement, I couldn’t resist and went through…

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Running, mindfulness and life lessons

I love running. It’s a passion I stumbled upon when I was a child, almost casually, by mindlessly following some schoolmates of mine, the way you do it when you’re 9 years old and, even though you still haven’t figured it out consciously, all you want is to feel like you’re part of a team. I wound up taking it way more seriously than the friends I followed there – the way I always do – so I quickly moved to the competitive level, entered the track and field team and stayed there for 5 or 6 years. Those running…

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Be vulnerable they said…

After having fallen in love with Brene Brown’s famous TED talk and read a couple of her books, I’ve started to get to know the theme of vulnerability better, both on a more academic level, by reading anything on the topic, and on a personal level, by testing my ability to allow myself to be vulnerable. It turns out a lot of great things happen when you allow yourself to be seen the way you are, great experiences seem to be waiting for you once you start your vulnerability journey. And, since that’s the way I function, I even got to…

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Of enraged dogs, success and self-celebration

Talk about having to speak in public to an anxious girl and you’ll see her crumble to the ground under the weight of her nerves shaking. Yeah, maybe you will. Or maybe not. I was recently asked to act in behalf of my boss for a couple of weeks, travel abroad, lead the preparation of the stuff we had to present, meet our Customer and deliver a 90 minutes presentation twice in two weeks. My anxiety immediately told me to say “No, I don’t want to go”, but my hard-working attitude and my desire not to let my boss down…

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What Therapy was to me

“I should have a therapist. I have plenty to therapise about.” – Norah Jones Let’s talk about therapy. Or better: let’s start by talking about therapy they way I would have done it two years ago. I’d  begin by rolling my eyes, I’d snort blatantly and recall a quote or two from a movie of Woody Allen’s. I’d tell you that that stuff doesn’t work, and if it does, it certainly doesn’t do anything to me. Now let’s fast forward to today: I’m ready to swear to you that therapy has been the most life-changing experience of my life so…

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New Year’s resolutions (some more homework for me)

The last days of the year are always a good moment to assess the previous twelve months and to make resolutions on what we wish for the year to come. Plus, I’ve been frequently shying away from expressing my deepest and most meaningful wishes in such an explicit way. I’m one of those people who somehow believe that what you really care for has to be kept untold. There must be some part of my mind believing that if you don’t say what you want to achieve out loud, in case of failure, you will be hurt a little less. Since I’m not sure that technique has…

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A new membership…

I’m proud to announce that this blog has just been included in the Mental Health Writers’ Guild. The Guild’s purpose is to encourage positive, informative, inspirational writing in respect of Mental Health. For further info, you can visit the Guild’s website. Thanks Kevin for granting my blog the membership and for his constant work on such a delicate and important matter!   If you’ve stumbled upon this page and reached the bottom of it, you’ve just made me happy, but if you really wish to make me thrilled and proud, please feel free to leave a comment here below. I’d…

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Hiding up from the Universe

I had a beautiful night last night. Curiously enough, I spent the hours right before my night out thinking of all the reasons why I shouldn’t go and stay home instead. But the truth is, when I got back home after having spent the evening out, I realised how amazing I had just been feeling and how silly and what a pity it would have been for me not to go. I was locking the gate behind me, when I distractedly looked up in the sky. A beautiful almost-full moon was shining down on me right in the middle of…

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